What You Say To Initiate A Conversation

Whether you want to meet women or men, you need to know that dating can be a numbers game.  Not always, of course.   The first person you meet may become the love of your life.  But for most of us, the more people we can have successful conversations with, the more likely we are to meet someone whom we really enjoy being with.  And, without being too obvious, you can’t have successful conversations unless you know how to start a conversation with a man or a woman.

Austin McGonigle, who’s a professional speaker and trainer, is a master at conversation starters.   McGonigle has already shared some of his most successful tactics in an earlier post here at (See “Dating Advice: Initiating A Conversation by Austin McGonigle”)

Today’s post is another of McGonigle’s conversation starters.

McGonigle was having lunch recently when he noticed a very attractive woman sitting by herself at an adjoining table.  He wanted to talk with her, but he did not want to start with a hackneyed pick-up line such as, “Do you come here often?”   Instead, he waited until her food was brought out and she began eating.

Then, very courteously, McGonigle said: “Pardon me for interrupting, but what is that you ordered?”  ( likes this question because it requires more than a simple Yes or No reply.)  She told him, and they began a pleasant conversation.

McGonigle told us that he was prepared to ask a follow-up question if she had given him a short answer, such as “Tilapia” or “Crab cakes.”  (His follow-up question required more than a Yes or No, too.)  He was going to ask, “What do you like best here?”   This question was calculated to get a recommendation from her, or a statement, “This is my first time here.”

The point in these conversation starters is to ask an open-ended question plus know what to say when you get a reply.  Doing forward thinking before you start a conversation never is effort lost.  Dating is a bit like playing checkers.  You have to think about more than just your first move.

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