How To Argue Effectively: Use This Disagree Statement

What You Say When You Disagree, But Don’t Want To Disrupt The Flow Of The Argument by Gene Griessman, Ph.D.

Here’s an effective way to register your disagreement without disrupting the flow of the conversation.

The way I discovered this technique? It was used on me.

I was in a conversation with a banker friend recently regarding my concerns about how long it was taking to refinance a mortgage. Was it possible, I wondered, if the bank was deliberately dragging out the process in order to make as much money for as long as possible?  If a big bank did this repeatedly for thousands of applications, the difference would amount to millions of dollars. Certainly somebody was making money as a result of the delay.

The banker replied, “There is a flaw in your argument, which we don’t have to discuss now, unless you’d like to.”

His parry was brilliant in its simplicity–courteous and thoughtful. We actually did discuss the “flaw” for a few moments before moving on to a different matter. (I don’t even remember his explanation but I do remember how he parried.)

Try it yourself: “There is a flaw in your argument, which we don’t have to discuss now, unless you’d like to.” It worked for me.

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Gene Griessman is an internationally known keynote speaker, actor, and communication strategist. His book “TheWords Lincoln Lived By” is in its 23rd printing and “Time Tactics of Very Successful People” is in its 43rd printing. His training video “Lincoln on Communication” is owned by thousands of corporations, libraries, and government organizations. He has spoken at conventions and annual meetings all over the world. To learn more about his presentations, call 404-435-2225. Learn more at Atlanta Speakers Bureau or at his website. His latest book “Lincoln and Obama” has just been released by Audible.
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