What You Say When You Disagree
by Gene Griessman, Ph.D.
When you disagree, watch your words whether you’re responding in person or writing a letter. You want to avoid quarrelling if possible. Arguments yes. Quarrels no.
But you do want to make a point.
We here at Whatyousay are constantly on the lookout for effective ways to do just that. We’ve found that the political shows on TV are a rich source of material. The frequent visitors generally know how to handle themselves as do the best hosts. Not long ago we heard a good one on the “Rachel Maddow Show” on MSNBC.
Rachel’s guest was a high-powered politician who staked out his interpretation of some recently released polls. Rachel decided not to let it pass.
When he finished, Rachel replied: “I heard just the opposite,” and then went on to give her interpretation. The exchange of ideas that ensued was done in a friendly manner, and both parties staked out their positions.
Next time you disagree with someone’s interpretation of the news or data, try out Rachel’s rejoinder.: Say, “I heard just the opposite” and then tell what you heard or saw. It’s one of the better responses we know of to make a point in an argument.
It’s also useful if you’re writing a letter to the editor, responding to a blog post, or a business letter or memo. Begin by writing: “I see just the opposite.”
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