Conflict Management: How To Stop Arguing

When You Should Never Say Nothing
By Gene Griessman, Ph.D.

Most of the time, you won’t get into trouble for what you don’t say.

But there’s one big exception. If you have gotten into a heated argument, or a nasty quarrel, it’s a mistake to get up and just walk off, saying nothing.

Here’s the rule–it’s one that I learned years ago in a graduate-level marriage consulting course. Tell the other person that you plan to return and pick up the conversation at a later time–whether it’s a business communication, a marital issue, and a lover’s quarrel.

Just getting up and walking away without a promise to return is inviting a negative response from the other person that may be surprisingly nasty.  You may just push a button you don’t want to push.

Say something like, “I need to step into the restroom,” or “Let me get us a drink…What would you like?”  This can really defuse the situation.

Or if the conversation was really heated, and you think you both need time to cool off,, say “Let me think about this. Can I give you a call later this evening?”

Stopping the argument may be very wise.  But don’t let the way you stop it add to the problem.

You get the idea?  Just make sure the other person knows that you respect him or her, and aren’t just stomping off in a huff.

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Gene Griessman is a thought-leader who's celebrated around the world for his books, training videos, and memorable presentations. As an actor and playwright, he has performed at Ford’s Theater, the Georgia Dome before 25,000, the Lincoln Memorial, and aboard the famed carrier the USS Abraham Lincoln. He has conducted exclusive interviews on TV and in print with Presidents, actors, sports stars, and business leaders. He has won numerous awards including the Benjamin Franklin Award. he has performed his Lincoln one-man play at Ford's Theatre. His award-winning book “The Achievement Factors” is considered a classic. “Time Tactics Of Very Successful People,” published by McGraw-Hill, is in its 43rd printing. “The Words Lincoln Lived By,” published by Simon & Schuster is in its 23rd printing. He is author of “Lincoln Speaks To Leaders,” “Lessons from Legends,” “Lincoln’s Wisdom;” and the celebrated training film “Lincoln On Communication.” He is a member of the Television Academy. His newest book "Lincoln and Obama" has just been released by Audible.
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