If you do send flowers, the flowers will speak for you—eloquently.
Here’s some valuable advice from our contributors about when to send flowers, what flowers to choose, and what to write on the note.
And you’ll find a terrific tip about how to save money on flowers, and not look cheap.
Share your tips with us. We want to know what has worked for you. Send us your do’s and don’ts. And let us know if you agree with our contributors.
If you’re dating that night, deliver them in person. Or, you can have them delivered two or three days before your date so that she can enjoy them early…and have sweet thoughts about you. And it could make the evening very pleasant.
One of our contributors uses a florist in an up-scale grocery (Whole Foods). He likes the selection, and believes that he saves a few dollars. However, he chooses from among the most expensive arrangements. Whatever florist you use, you must not look cheap.
Our experts are divided about what kind of flower is best for Valentine’s. Roses are always appreciated, but they are fragile. One expert prefers beautiful, showy orchids because they make a great impression, look expensive, and last for days, sometimes weeks.
Men. Valentine’s Day is a good time to remember women friends and acquaintances in business, like realtors, insurance agents, gatekeepers, clients, etc. Don’t deliver them yourself. Send them. If you give flowers in the office, be sure that you don’t stir up jealousy. You are safe if you give flowers to your secretary or administrative assistant, but it can get risky if you go beyond that.
Recommendation for Fathers on Valentine’s Day
You’ll bring her a lot of joy with flowers on Valentine’s Day, especially if your daughter isn’t dating anyone at the time. (She may feel a bit sad if all her friends are getting flowers.) But don’t sign the card “Dad.” Instead write, “From a Secret Admirer.” And don’t tell her you did it until later. Then she can be honestly mysterious about the giver. One of our experts has done this for several years. It is a big, much-appreciated event when flowers are delivered to his daughters’ offices. (Even little girls appreciate flowers from their Dad on Valentine’s Day.)
Certain flowers are preferred for other occasions, such as red roses for Valentine’s Day, lilies for Easter, poinsettias for the holidays, etc. There is no obligatory flower for Mother’s Day.
There are all sorts of wonderful, bright, cheerful bouquets that you can give on Mother’s Day. However, our panel recommended giving a beautiful plant instead of cut flowers—azaleas, hibiscus, amaryllis, a showy orchid, etc. Panel members prefer plants because a plant will remind your mother of your thoughtfulness for a very long time, and she can show it off to her friends thereby demonstrating that she is remembered. (That may be as important as being remembered..)
And here is a Mother’s Day poem:
“A mother is the truest friend we have,
when trials heavy and sudden, fall upon us
when adversity takes the place of prosperity;
when friends who rejoice with us in our sunshine desert us;
when trouble thickens around us, still will she will cling to us,
and endeavor by her kind precepts and counsels,
to dissipate the clouds of darkness,
and cause peace to return to our hearts.”
–by Washington Irving
Men and women. Always, especially if you can’t attend the wedding. Can be sent to home or wedding site.
Men and women. Always, especially if you can’t attend the funeral. You should be prepared to spend serious money, because what you send will be placed in a line, and will be compared with floral arrangements from friends, relatives, and acquaintances.
Men. Not required, but a nice touch. If not an arrangement, a single rose.
Men. Not required, but a nice touch. Flowers are always welcomed at Christmas, especially those with a winter theme.
Men. Maybe. Our contributors are divided. One panelist thought it might signal that you’re too interested. You don’t want to look over-eager. Of course, if money is not an issue, overwhelm her from the beginning. But it will be unfavorably noticed if you slack off, and you will.
Man. If you want to give your relationship a boost, send/bring flowers unexpectedly. One contributor warned, don’t do it often, or it will lose its impact.
The Morning After
If you score, it makes a terrific impression to send flowers. Why? Because no woman ever wants to feel used or cheap, and if you send flowers, you signal that you respect her and like her a lot. Again, this is another situation when you can sign the card “A Secret Admirer.” If she shows off the flowers, it’s her option to tell or not tell who sent them.
A money-saving tip that doesn’t make you look cheap
One of our contributors has a collection of beautiful vases that he purchases at estate sales, at stores like Tuesday Morning, and at arts and crafts festivals. When he gives flowers in person, he purchases an arrangement of cut flowers and places them in one of his pre-chosen vases. The arrangement looks expensive, but doesn’t cost a bundle.
Be confident you’ll make the right impression with these florists—and save money, too.
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